Archive for the ‘Relationships & Love’ Category

I’ve been a fan of Astrology for more years than I have fingers but it wasn’t until I moved countries, changed careers and met a lovely guy – who later turned out to be more Kermit than Prince Darling – that I got the bug good and proper. But I also have to confess that it was my relationship with J that first had me reading astrology texts looking for signs that we were meant to be…looking particularly at my chart for signs romance, his chart for signs of fate and passion and, finally, our charts meshed together for the cosmic indicators that it was all destiny….


Sigh. I now realise that this was short-sighted and after J went Kermit on me, I was surprised that I was still interested in Relationship Astrology but I’ve always been a die-hard romantic (Libra on 5th house cusp) so I continued to read and learn more and more about love indicators in the birth chart. That was only a few years ago so I’m not an expert but I would like to share what I have discovered through reading good texts on the subject of Synastry and Composite charts and through talking to friends and looking at their charts.

It’s easiest of me if I use my own chart to explain so here goes…


Romance & Romantic Partners

  1. To find out how you like to give and experience romance, you must look to the sign on the 5th house cusp. (Libra)
  2. Are there any planets (or asteroids) in this house? (Pluto and Juno)
  3. Who is the ruler of the 5th house and where are they in the chart? (Venus in the 10th house)

So I like my romances (and romantic partners) to be attractive, intelligent, socially graceful with charm by the bucket load (Libra) but it cannot be only superficial, it must have passionate intensity and emotional connection (Pluto). Finally, I will likely meet a lot of my romantic partners through my career or reputation (Venus in the 10th)

More details can be added if you look closely at the major aspects that any of the planets connected to any of the ‘love’ houses. This will generally add context and more descriptive details about the people you’ll be attracted to, where you’ll meet and how you approach the relationship.  

Partnerships & Marriage

  1. For marriage or any long-term relationship look to the sign on the cusp of the 7th house (Sagittarius)
  2. Any planets/asteroids in the 7th house? (Neptune and Vertex)
  3. Where is the ruler of the 7th positioned in the chart? (Jupiter in the 4th house)

So…in a long-term relationship I’m after freedom, adventure and independence and I would be highly likely to marry someone who is teacher, foreign or a big traveller/explorer type (Sagittarius – Indiana Jones, please stand up!) but I’m also looking for a spiritual connection and unconditional love (Neptune). He’ll also most likely be musical, creative or gifted (or flakey) in some way with Neptune in the 7th. He will be very generous, successful and will have a lot of support and encouragement from his family to share and I will benefit from him through our marriage…or, at least, that’s the plan!  (Jupiter in the 4th)

As mentioned above, once you’ve got these factors you can then look to the aspects for more details to add to your descriptions…for instance with Jupiter in the 7th this can sometimes mean luck, good fortune and many marriages but with Saturn very closely conjunct in the 4th, I have a more considered and cautious approach which means I take the responsible and pragmatic approach to committment….

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Boxing glove dont match the dress so lets loose the arms, k?

Boxing glove don't match the dress so let's loose the arms, k?

So far, Venus retrograde has been good to me. I had a lovely moment a few weeks ago when a dear childhood friend who I lost returned (gotta love facebook) and we are very happily back in touch. But coming up it looks as though she has some pretty heavy stuff to show me and I wonder if I can take it? As many astrologers will warn you:

When archaeologists discover the missing arms of Venus de Milo, they will find she was wearing boxing gloves. ~ John Barrymore


As someone who’s chart ruler is Mercury and at the highest point of my chart (conjunct the mid-heaven) I have come to respect, prepare and appreciate Mercury’s regular do-over periods and have learnt a lot about the value of slowing down, taking notes and paying more attention to my inner landscape during this period. And waiting for practically everything in my life to stall and start over differently each time….

But this Venus retrograde has me running scared. Mainly because I’m not as in touch with this planet as I’d like in my own chart (she’s squished between my sun and mars all in 16-17 degrees Aries and often vocally expresses her dislike of this placement like a stroppy beauty queen forced to clean the smelly men’s locker room after the big game) but she does rule my moon (Taurus)  so I like to think that she’s a little more empowered with this placement and will only take orders from Mars and the Sun for as long as it suits her.   

There’s a few reasons why I’m already disliking 2009’s retrograde phase. Firstly, Venus is in my natal sign (Venus in Aries) so I feel reasons to be nervous and expect that there will be some events coming to me during the phase, whether I like it or not. A lot of interesting things are being said about Venus retrograde through this sign, never forgetting to mention how Venus is so obviously uncomfortable in Aries. I think this is all a bit insensitive. Try having it natally and then come and talk to me about how Venus feels in Aries.  

Secondly, another gripe, with Venus in 17 degree Aries means her retrograde period is dragging out my Venus return no end which is like watching a pen rolling  back and forth on an uneven desk and you’re holding your breath waiting for it to roll fast and far enough just to fall off….and worse! in my Venus return chart she’s not a happy bunny. Sure, she’s making a nice conjunction to Mars (but as I have this aspect natally I’m hardly expecting it wil mean very much) in the 2nd house so I’m going to be loving my securities this year. Saturn’s in the 7th house and Aquarius is rising so the less said about that the better. But it is happening on May 23 and the almost the day of the stellar conjunction of Jupiter, Chiron and Neptune which are all rising in the chart so I figure it might not to time to throw it all in just yet. But I’m not breaking out the bunting yet either.

Third and most irritatingly, this means she is now going to be retrograde in my Solar return. Brilliant.  Oh, and did I mention Libra is this year’s SR ascendant so not only is she incapacitated, she’s also the chart ruler. Better and better. GAH. Interestingly though, SR ascendant is cover my natal fourth house so home, family, emotional issues seem to be the lay of the land this year.

To put it midly, I had a truly horrific time of it with love issues last year (SR Venus in the 9th on O degrees Aries square Pluto in the fifth) so I had high hopes that I would have earned some nice love karma (you can’t cry that much and not have the universe take pity on you, surely?), that I could look forward to a new romance or ten but nooooo she’s in the 6th house of my Solar Return so I’m going to be loving to serve others, or my work or my health. What. Ever. I’m seriously thinking of travelling far west of UK (like to Greenland) to see if I can heckle her into the fifth but I don’t think that’s part of the master plan. And then she’d be squashed into the same house as a frightening Uranus-Mars conjunction already occupying the SR fifth house (and I suspect ready to do their worst) 

Everything happens in cycles, right? Well, I’m superstistious enough to think if I try to dodge this one it could only be worse in the end so I’ll just have to live through another year of thinking all men are almost entirely crap….my thanks to Venus. Thanks for nothing.

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